Female Ejaculation

Female Ejaculation
A Look Into Why Most Women Don't Realize They Can Do It

Lisa S. Lawless, R.M., C.E.O.
Holistic Wisdom Founder

2005

Female Ejaculation - Did you know that ALL women are capable of it? It's True!

You may have heard of female ejaculation, or you may not even know what it is, as many people do not. Female ejaculation is not only very real, it is something that ALL women can achieve, and is a very basic female sexual response that has remained a mystery until recently.

All women can learn to ejaculate as much as two cups of fluid and spray it across the length of a room! Oh sure, there are a lot of myths out there regarding this exquisite female sexual response. Some claim the whole premise of female ejaculation is untrue, others claim only "special" women are capable and still others try and tell you ridiculous techniques based on myths such as suggesting that women should tighten their Kegel (vaginal wall) muscles to make it happen.

These types of statements are simply untrue. While women have differences in their genitalia (just as men do) all women are capable of squirting these lovely orgasmic juices with the right techniques. It is no different than all men being capable of ejaculating no matter the size or shape of their penis. The only reason that most people do not know about or understand how to achieve female ejaculation is from the sheer lack of understanding women’s sexuality.

When I first heard about female ejaculation I was in my late twenties. Being a sexually knowledgeable and adventurous woman as well as a psychotherapist specializing in sexual issues, I was shocked that I had never heard about it, let alone done it.

I personally discovered female ejaculation after having a very open and enlightening discussion with a girlfriend, whom told me that she did the "wildest thing" when she had an orgasm (and sometimes just when she was sexually aroused). I of course was very intrigued about this, and ended up asking her a lot of questions about how it happened for her. I then went to the Internet to find out more, and was met with a great deal of inaccurate, conflicting information about female ejaculation. What was a chick to do? I wanted to know more about it, and most importantly at the time, I wanted to know if I could do it too. I began a mission of researching through medical journals, interviews with physicians, sex therapists and my clients who came to me for psychotherapy.

After all my research, and developing a few theories of my own, I decided that I simply had to try to see if I could do it. I am happy to say that I did it during my first attempt through masturbating. It was so simple! There were a few things that I learned and did in preparation that made it possible and there are a lot of things I learned along the way which turned into a 150 page book and 90 minute video! For the sake of keeping this article and not a book, let me give you a quick overview of how female ejaculation occurs so that you get a general idea of how all of this works.

First let’s get the myths out of the way and review what is true and untrue about it-

The Myths About Female Ejaculation :

• Female ejaculation does not exist.
• Only rare women can achieve female ejaculation.
• Kegel exercise is the key to achieving female ejaculation.
• Only women with prominent G-Spots can achieve female ejaculation.
• Female ejaculation can only be achieved through G-Spot orgasms.
• Gynecologists are educated about this issue and provide women with correct information.
• Women can only excrete a drop or two of female ejaculate, and if it is more (especially in the amounts that some women claim 1-2 cups) then it would be urine.
• Female ejaculation is or becomes urinary incontinence.
• Women who have given birth are the only women capable of female ejaculation.
• There is only one way to achieve female ejaculation.

The Truth About Female Ejaculation :

• Female ejaculation comes from the Skenes/Paraurethral glands (also known as the G-Spot).
• Women do not realize that they can ejaculate because they are missing the cues of when they can do it.
• There are specific techniques that can be taught to a woman to teach her how to do it and how to hold it if she does not wish to ejaculate.
• Women can ejaculate without having a G-Spot orgasm and for that matter without having an orgasm at all!
• Women can increase the amount of fluid they ejaculate by following specific steps.
• Women can ejaculate multiple times within a short period.
• Female ejaculation is not urine, is much like the consistency of water, is clear in color, and usually smells like nothing or has a slight sweet scent
• OBGYNs and other physicians often misunderstand or even misdiagnose female ejaculation.

You may be wondering If all women are capable, then why is it that many women have never done it? This is a very good question, and is easily explained. Let’s begin with reviewing some basic information about the female anatomy to better understand how this works.

Where Does Female Ejaculation Come From?

Female ejaculation is a fluid that is pushed out of the urethra (pee-hole- just like urine) however, unlike urine it comes from the Paraurethral/Skenes glands (located under and making up the G-Spot) during sexual arousal.

How Is Female Ejaculate Different Than Regular Cum?

There are two types of female cum that can be excreted during sexual arousal. They are clinically termed as urethral and vaginal ejaculation fluids. The one most commonly seen in our culture is vaginal ejaculate, which lubricates the vaginal walls and oozes out during sexual arousal. You probably have noticed it is milky and ranges in its thickness and odor based on a woman’s diet, overall health and the phase she is experiencing within her menstrual cycle.

Urethral ejaculate is what we are referring to when describing female ejaculation and is less common. It is the watery ejaculate that sprays or gushes out and is the one that is generally less known about. Again, this is not because only a few, special women are capable, but rather due to lack of understanding of women's sexual health issues in this culture.

What Is In The Fluid?

Let me get the biggest myth out of the way- IT IS NOT URINE. Upon testing the liquid, scientists have found that it contains levels of glucose (sugar), and an enzyme (prostatic acid phosphatase), which is characteristic of a major component in semen. It is similar to the prostate fluid within male ejaculation but without the sperm. There are also two other substances contained in the fluid, commonly found in urine (urea and creatinine), which are found in trace amounts. It is a unique substance, and unlike the heavier and thicker fluid that you would typically see when a chick is "wet" or has had an orgasm.

How Much Ejaculate Comes Out?

Most women can gush as much as 1.5 - 2 cups of the fluid when ejaculating. However this can be affected by how hydrated a woman is, how much she pushes while ejaculating, and other factors.

Why Don't Most Women Know About It Or Do It?

Female ejaculation is not difficult; its techniques are just not known about by many. Because women typically don't know about the elusive reasons they are not doing it, they are usually sabotaging their chances for gushing female ejaculate when they are having an orgasm.

One of the main reasons that women do not know they can do it is because women will often feel like they need to urinate when they are ready to expel the ejaculate and because they think that urine will come out, which it will not, they hold back. You see the G-Spot (Skenes Glands) fill up with the female ejaculate fluid and this puts pressure on the urethra (pee-tube) thus, making it feel like she has to urinate when in actuality she could ejaculate if she simply pushed instead of holding back.
There are sure-fire methods, techniques and ways to achieve it as well as overcome inhibitors, yet the issue of holding back for fear of urinating is a big factor for many women. The ejaculation techniques that I have begun training thousands of women and their partners have been quite effective and not only allow for amazing ejaculations but will also intensify any type (women are capable of eight) of orgasm to mind blowing levels.

Are There Health Problems For Women Who Do It?

No, in fact that is one of the reasons I am so passionate about teaching women and their partners about female ejaculation because unlike what many think, there is nothing abnormal or unhealthy about it. Did you know that thousands of women each year are told that a normal female sexual response such as female ejaculation is a medical problem (incontinence, which it is not) or something that they should be ashamed of as they are thought to be maliciously urinating on their partner(s)?

Because women can gush as much as two cups of ejaculate, many people think that it must be urine. Often women who do not know what is happening (and there are many) are embarrassed, confused and find it to be of great concern. It does not help that most health practitioners are not informed about it as many women are being told they require surgery and/or psychotherapy for this normal female sexual response!

If there is one thing that I can stress, it is that female ejaculation is not only visually erotic, but it feels incredible to do it. The kind of sexual release that a woman feels from this powerful gush coming from her sweet pussy is like no other.

See Holistic Wisdom Holistic & Sexual Health for the mind, body & spirit for further information on this and other related subjects.

Female Ejaculation: Research Contrary to BBFC prohibition in R18s

As submitted to the BBFC by

Feminists Against Censorship

January 2002

The British Board of Film Classification provides a list of permissible content for videos seeking classification as 'R18' category videos, available only to adults from licensed sex shops. This permissible content includes aroused genitalia, and ejaculation and semen. Ejaculation is not qualified by gender, hence it would seem reasonable to assume that this would permit female as well as male ejaculation. However, on May 2001, a video entitled British Cum Queens (initially submitted as Squirt Queens ), was finally passed with a R18 certificate having been cut by six minutes and 12 seconds because the ejaculation of fluid by female performers as a sexual response was deemed to be urolagnia, banned in accordance with the Obscene Publications Act 1959. The Board reasoned that the film did not show female ejaculation because, according to the 'expert medical advice' received by the Board, female ejaculation does not exist.

Feminists Against Censorship (FAC) express their surprise and dismay at this judgment, and have sought advice from the world's foremost medical researchers specialising in female sexuality and female ejaculation. Our findings, summarised here, lead us to the conclusion that female ejaculation cannot be rejected out-of-hand as non-existent. Having found scientific researchers who are prepared to state that 'all, or at least most, women ejaculate'[1], the conclusion which FAC would concur with is that 'the existence of a female prostate and the phenomenon of female ejaculation are fact not fantasy'[2]. The spontaneous release of fluid - ejaculation - is a part of sexual response for at least some women, pointing to a purely discriminatory approach to ejaculation by the Board - that is, the depiction of male, but not female, ejaculation is being permitted.

It should be emphasised that FAC has no direct connection with the video material in question and this submission is not made on behalf of or at the request of any film-maker. FAC is concerned that the Board has made a discriminatory decision, contrary to the most recent expert medical advice, and a decision which continues to suppress the acknowledgement of the full range of sexual response which exists in women. FAC seeks from the Board its acknowledgement of the existence of female ejaculation in the light of the research referred to here, and urges the Board to consider fully the implications of this for its future decisions.

The Board, in a response given to www.world-sex-news.com, stated that "expert medical advice informed us that there is no such thing as 'female ejaculation' and that the fluid present in Squirt Queens (and the earlier tape) was in fact urine"[3]. Such a simple statement, when compared to research findings in the wider scientific community, can only imply that the adviser consulted by the Board was not an expert in female sexuality. Many medical experts, even those with experience of urology and reproductive biology, may not have had training in human sexuality. It is certainly not knowledge that should be taken for granted; "Even amongst anatomists and sexologists, there is an astonishing lack of agreement over what actually constitutes women's genital anatomy"[4].

There is now acknowledgement that female genital anatomy includes a female prostate, also known as the paraureathral glands, or Skene's glands, named as such in the 1880s[5], and described in their historical and anatomical detail in 1948 by John W. Huffman[6]. Interest in the sexual function of the female prostate was taken up by Earnst Grafenberg in 1950, who wrote of the "large quantities of a clear, transparent fluid [that] are expelled not from the vulva, but out of the urethra in gushes"[7]. Later, scientific interest stemmed from a paper by Sevely and Bennett which concluded that female ejaculation had received wide acknowledgement in many cultures prior to the twentieth century, and that the female prostate had a role in the production of fluid released as a part of female sexual response.[8] Dr Beverly Whipple and Dr John Perry included a chapter on female ejaculation in their 1982 book on the G-Spot[9], and Whipple continued to pursue the subject in articles and conference lectures, and made, in clinical setting, a film which showed women ejaculating.[10]

Research in the 1980s and 1990s finally began to analyse the chemical of fluids released in female sexual response in some depth, focussing on the presence of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) manufactured in the female prostate, and the concentration of other substances (urea, creatinine, glucose, fructose) in relation to their usual concentration in urine, usually achieved by taking samples of pre-orgasmic urine, post-orgasmic urine, and female ejaculate.

Analysis carried out by Whipple and Perry in the early 1980s established substantially higher levels of prostate-specific antigen and glucose, and substantially lower levels of creatinine and urea, in samples of ejaculatory fluid than in samples of urine from the same women.[11]

A simple marker test carried out by Whipple, in which the characteristic odor produced by ingesting asparagus was clearly present in subjects' urine, demonstrated that this was not present in female (and indeed in male) ejaculate, demonstrating a difference in the two fluids.[12] This is similar in its result to the much reported experiment in which a student of Edwin Belzer took a drug to dye her urine bright blue, and found that whilst her urine became strongly coloured as expected, the fluids she ejaculated during masturbation showed only a slight blue tinge or no colour at all.[13]

A study by F Cabello Santamaria analysed urine for prostate-specific antigen (PSA) using Microparticle Enzyme Immunoassy and found that 75 per cent of the sample showed a concentration of PSA in postorgasmic urine samples which was not present in preorgasmic urine samples.[14] The fluid collected at the point of orgasm (distinct from the urine samples) showed the presence of PSA in 100 per cent of samples. Cabello believes his research to confirm his hypothesis that all women are capable of ejaculation, but the amount of fluid expelled from the female prostate, or the direction in which it is expelled (towards the bladder), mean that it is not always perceived. (Cabello notes that retrograde ejaculation is also an occurance in some men.)

Cabello provides his own summary of those whose work he concludes has proven the presence of PSA in females fluids: "...we have all those authors that try to prove that women emit a certain fluid, different from vaginal lubrication, during their sexual response (Grafenberg, 1950; Sevely & Bennet, 1978; Belzer et al, 1981; Perry & Whipple, 1981; Addiego at al,. 1981; Sensabaugh & Kahane, 1982; Belzer et al., 1884; Zaviavic et al., 1984; Stifter, 1987 etc). Thanks to this last group, the presence of prostate acid phosphate and fructose in the supposed female ejaculation, elements normally present in male ejculation, seems proven".[15] According to Whipple, it is Zaviacic in his 1999 book on the human female prostate[16] who provides "the most complete enzyme histochemical, exocrine, and imunohistochemical studies on the female prostate and the analysis of female ejaculation".[17]

Despite this body of evidence, it cannot be said that the issue is without complications. Dr John Perry has attempted to analyse findings further, to propose that there may be more than one type of sexual response in women which involves the emission of fluid. 'Pure' female ejaculation involves secretions of the female prostate; alternatively, 'gushing' involves a much diluted form of urine; or the two phenomena may occur in combination.[18] Whilst larger volumes of fluid may indicate that it involves the expulsion of dilute urine, its chemical composition implies that it is a distinct part of sexual response rather than ordinary urination. An experiment recorded by Dr Gary Schubach involved female subjects engaging in sexual stimulation then having their bladders drained with a catheter. After this draining, seven women still expelled 50 -900 ml of fluid in sexual response, fluid that showed "a greatly reduced concentration of urine and creatinine (the primary components of urine). The clear inference was that the expelled fluid is an altered form of urine, meaning that there appears to be a process that goes on during sensual or sexual stimulation and excitement that effects the chemical composition of urine".[19]

It is reasonable to suggest that the most far-reaching conclusion to be drawn from this is that it is not credible to expect the expulsion of urine (especially if chemically altered, vastly diluted expulsions from the bladder are still to be described as urine) to always be kept completely out of scenes of sexual activity and response.

It is certainly not acceptable for the Board to promulgate a point of view that lacks clear research support, and denies both women and men knowledge of a natural female sexual response. Too often in history women have been denied the right to know about aspects of their own biology, and have lived with the fear that the way in which their own bodies function is not 'normal'. Cabello considers it sufficiently important to state that "With the obtained data, we...calm those women who fear that they have urinated while experiencing orgasm"[20]. Indeed, it is not a trifling matter when some women have been referred for surgery to correct what is perceived to be some form of urinary incontinence.[21] To accept that female ejaculation exists is not synonymous with stating that all women ejaculate, nor with advocating ejaculation as the goal of sexual achievement for all women. We are sure that the Board must be aware that much of the sexual material it passes with an R18 certificate does not necessarily represent the sexual experiences of all women.

The fact that in September 2000 the Board passed a film ( British Housewives Fantasies Part 1 ) which showed two women ejaculating on orgasm implies that there is some recognition by the Board that the expulsion of fluid by women can be a natural sexual response distinct from urination. This accords perfectly with the view of an NHS Consultant in Human Sexuality: "Ejaculatory women do not 'choose' to void urine, it is the consequence of a neural reflex and a natural part of their sexual response"[22]. The move away from what could seemingly be described as a 'common sense' approach cannot be justified by the opinion of a single unnamed medical expert and advice from the police on the interpretation of the Obscene Publications Act.

The Board does not pass material that it considers to be in breech of the Act - that is, material with a tendency to deprave and corrupt. Yet the events which led to more relaxed guidelines for R18 category videos being published in July 2000 indicate that female ejaculation may not necessarily fall foul of this definition. Indeed, this should be balanced against the damage that can be done to women by indicating that what they experience as a natural response to sexual stimulation simply does not exist.

In addition to the scientific research summarised here, there are also the testimonies of ordinary women, which should not be overlooked. These range from experiences of "a dime-sized puddle on the bathroom floor" to "very dramatic squirting episodes where the fluid hit my toes"[23]. It should not be forgotten that women are still developing from a past in which their ability to orgasm has been disputed, not to mention their proper role being characterised as one of disinterest in sexual matters and sexual response altogether. The anxiety which some of the scientific researchers refer to is also expressed: "During sex, I worried and got embarrassed about the mess I seemed to make"[24]. If the Board continues to blindly support the line that 'female ejaculation does not exist', does that mean all women who experience it are liars? Can the Board really expect to sustain an approach which, when measured against its own guidelines, appears to be based so heavily on ignorance and discrimination?

Appended is a bibliography on the subject of female ejaculation that demonstrates the volume of research on this subject, plus correspondence sent directly to FAC from relevant researchers in support of our submission on this issue. We are confident that the arguments presented here, and specifically, the expert research which supports these arguments, is far stronger than whatever 'evidence' the Board may have considered in rejecting outright the existence of female ejaculation. The research may not all be straightforward, but, "to be fair, our understanding of ejaculatory physiology in men is almost as rudimentary as our understanding of it in women, but no-one has the temerity to say that male ejaculation does not exist".[25]

We look forward to your response, and sincerely hope that it will adequately reflect the depth of scientific research which is available on this matter, and the right of women not to have their natural sexual responses denied and censored.

Yours sincerely,

Louise Achille and Catherine Wilkinson
on behalf of Feminists Against Censorship

Notes

1. Cabello, F. (1997). Female ejaculation: Myth and reality. In J.J. Baras-Vass & M.Perez-Conchillo (Eds) Sexuality and Human Rights: Proceedings of the XIII World Congress of Sexology (pp.325-333) Valencia, Spain: E.C.V.S.A.
2. Chalker, Rebecca, p 120, The Clitoral Truth, Seven Stories Press, New York, 2000
3. BBFC response to www.word-sex-news.com, quoted by www.melonfarmers.co.uk, 14 March 2001
4. Chalker, p.22
5. Skene, Alexander, The Anatomy and pathology of two important glands of the female urethra, American Journal of obstetrics and diseases of Women and Children 13, 265-270, 1880
6. Huffman, John W., The detailed anatomy of the paraureathral ducts in the human female, American journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, 46:773-785, 1943
7. Grafenberg, Earnst, The Role of the Urethra in Female Orgasm, International Journal of Sexology, Vol III, no 3, p.145-148, February 1950
8. Sevely, J Lowndes, and Bennett, J.W., Concerning female ejaculation and the female prostate, Journale of Sex Research, 14: 424-427, 1978 9. Ladas, Alice Khan; Whipple, Beverly; and Perry, John, The G Spot and Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality. Holt, Rinehart and Winston, 1982.
10. Described in Chalker, p108.
11. Ladas, Whipple and Perry, as above.
12. Whipple,B., and Komisaruk, B.R., The G spot, orgasm and female ejaculation: Are they related? In P. Kothari (ed.), The Proceedings of the First International Conference on Orgasm (pp. 227-237, Bombay, India: VRP Publishers, 1991
13. Belzer, Edwin G., Orgasmic Explusions of Women: A Review and Heuristic Inquiry, Journal of Sex Research 17, 1-12, 1981
14. Cabello, as above
15. Cabello, as above
16. Zaviacic, M. The Human Female Prostate: From vestigial Skene's paraurethral glands and ducts to woman's functional prostate, Slovak Academic Press, Slovakia, 1999
17. Whipple, Beverley, private correspondence to FAC, 2 October 2001 (attached)
18. Perry, John, Female Ejaculation and the Beer-Piss Hypothesis, from www.DrGDpot.net/feandbph.htm 1997
19. Schubach, Gary, The G-Crest and Female Ejaculation, from www.doctorg.com/FemaleEjaculation.htm 1997
20. Cabello, as above
21. Chalker, 125
22. Dr John Dean, Consultant in Human Sexuality, South Devon Healthcare NHS Trust, private correspondence to FAC, October 2001
23. Chalker, pp.105-108
24. Chalker, pp.105-108
25. Dr John Dean, Consultant in Human Sexuality, South Devon Healthcare NHS Trust, private correspondence to FAC, October 2001

The BBFC replied as follows:

If I may clarify our position, the Board does not in fact take any view on whether or not female ejaculation exists. As you admit in your letter this is a controversial and much-debated area with a range of views being taken amongst medical professionals. At the most basic level, however, the Board is content that the pornographic tapes so far presented to us as examples of 'female ejaculation' are in fact nothing other than straightforward scenes of urination masquerading as 'female ejaculation'. This has been confirmed by a female sexual health expert who the Board has consulted on a range of issues relating to videos intended for the 'R18' category.

Quite the opposite of attempting to confront the issue of female ejaculation in a reassuring, sympathetic or informative light, the tapes in question appear to be nothing more than a cynical attempt on the part of porn distributors to get around the constraints imposed on urolagnia in sex tapes by the current interpretation of the Obscene Publications Act. It is worth noting that the kind of material that the Board has been cutting is regularly sold as 'orolagnia' in other European countries (France, Germany, Netherlands, etc) where there is no equivalent legal restriction on the use of urine in sex videos. Indeed, although videos featuring urolagnia are very much in evidence on the continent, videos purporting to show 'female ejaculation' seem to be invisible. Perhaps female ejaculation is less exciting (or profitable) to pornographers and their viewers than urination? Generally speaking sex videos of the type encountered at 'R18' neither seek to inform nor educate about female (or male) sexuality but merely offer graphic (and grossly distorted) views of sex for the arousal of viewers. Indeed, as you acknowledge in your letter "much of the material [the Board] passes with an 'R18' certificate does not necessarily represent the sexual experiences of all women".

To conclude, the Board remains open minded about the issue of female ejaculation but we have yet to be presented with any pornographic video that has convinced us - or our medical advisor - that it consists of anything other than an excuse to display scenes of urolagnia. Such scenes are regularly found obscene by juries in the UK and therefore cannot be classified.

History

If you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years you would be lead to believe that females have only been able to ejaculate since about 1980. Of course this is absurd, and just shows how "the experts" can be wrong for decades on just about anything. Many knew the experts were wrong, but had little success in convincing anyone. Needless to say this lead to many problems, needless surgery (to fix the poor women who would ejaculate), expensive counseling (got to find out what happened when they were children to cause this "problem"), and in some cases divorce. "The G Spot" by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry, has dozens of letters from women who went though various personal tragedies because they would ejaculate during lovemaking. Doctors, gynecologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them they were peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.

Newsweek published an article entitled "Just How the Sexes Differ" in May of 1981. One of the major difference was listed was that men ejaculate, but women do not. However, Aristotle wrote about female ejaculation, and Galen knew about it in the second century. The female prostate, which generates the fluid which is ejaculated, was described in some detail by De Graaf in his "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of Women". (1) "... during the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the matter which may have been taken to be actual female semen." He describes the fluid as "rushing out" with "impetus" and "in one gush." (2)

The medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when Perry and Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating to the SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sex). Martin Weisberg, M.D., a gynecologist at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I spend half my waking hours examining, cutting apart, putting together, removing, or rearranging female reproductive organs. There is no female prostrate, and women don't ejaculate."

Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person he changed his tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal with no abnormal masses or spots. The urethra was normal. Everything was normal. She then had her partner stimulate her by inserting two fingers into the vagina and stroking along the urethra lengthwise. To our amazement, the area began to swell. It eventually became a firm one by two cm oval area distinctly different from the rest of the vagina. In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a Valsalva maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and seconds later several cc's of milky fluid shot out the urethra. The material analysis described in the paper (Perry & Whipple's) is correct, its composition was closest to prostatic fluid".

Fluid Characteristics

The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look, smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies, depending on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other factors, such as amount of stimulation received prior to ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation. It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a combination of these tastes.

Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during a orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very important, and it is important for the female and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which contracts during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course prevents the bladder from draining during orgasm.

Problems Women have Ejaculating

I think there are two major problems women face that prevents them from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation. They are the female's mental attitude, and their partners inability or unwillingness to spend the time and effort during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques. We will address both of these problems and the solutions here.

The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the same tube that is used for urination. It is located outside the vagina, between it and the clitoris. The fluid is water like, and non- lubricating. In no way does ejaculation improve the chances of conceiving, it offers no lubrication, and is dumped outside of the vagina. The only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing the best orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of orgasms, clitoral and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination of the two), giving the female extreme pleasure, sort of a triple whammy. Sometimes after ejaculation the female will virtually pass out from the intense feelings.

It can be argued that since the only reason that females can and do ejaculate is for pleasure, then there should be no reason for them to not do so, and as often as they please. It is one of the safer sex acts, since in most cases it can be triggered with fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse is more difficult, especially when performed from the missionary position, but still possible.

Preparation Recommendations for the Woman's Partner

Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and first two finger nails do not extend past the fingertips. Trimming them as far back as possible would be best. Make sure that there is no dirt or crud under the fingernails.

Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.

Have some K&Y Jelly handy. At some point additional lubrication may be necessary, even if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes.

Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation may take from 10 minutes to over an hour.

It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary can become quite tiring after a while if you are not in good physical shape.

Before beginning the first time, discuss it. Let her know that you are striving to give her an ejaculation. That female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and a wonderful experience for both of you. Convince her that there is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. Explain that just prior to ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about to pee. This is a difficult point for many women, as they will immediately draw back. Convince her that it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate.

Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her that this is something quite different. Once she knows the feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts, with astounding results. It is best for the partner to be sitting between her legs at this time, else she may overshoot the towel or even wet the far wall.

Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make fun, or a joke. If you do it may be the last time she will be able to ejaculate, at least in your presence. Unlike a man, this is not the end. You can continue, and she may well have multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further stimulation.

Technique

Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start with her on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be done with a moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while rubbing her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate, continue clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this point slide two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move along the front wall of the vagina. You should encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.

Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.

Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions.

Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.

This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.

The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.

Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.

I highly recommend "The G Spot" for further reading.

Footnotes: 1) Regnier de Graal, "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of Women", p. 107 2) Alice Kahn Ladas,
        Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry, "The G Spot" page 59. Dell Publishing 1982.

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